Questions students have always wanted answered

Crusader Rudy Thornton is here to answer SCCC students most asked questions.


Crusader Staff

Advice column from Crusader Ruby Thornton discusses relationship, college and friendship questions with valuable answers.

College Questions

 How do I survive my first year of college?

Almost every college freshman is terrified to fly the nest at first. I haven’t met one that hasn’t been at least once or twice. My advice is to find a group that you can relate to and start talking to them. You could also find a club that interests you and meet people that share the same interests.

 How can I get over my fear of failure?

 This is very simple. You’ll never know if you never try. Failure is a part of life and you can either run from it or learn from it.

 Is it okay to not have a “friend group”? 

Of course! It’s okay to have a bunch of friends but all of your friends don’t have to be in the same friend group. It is perfectly fine to expand your horizon!

Relationship Questions

How do I know if he really loves me?

He will make you feel like you are the only girl he has ever known. You won’t have to question his loyalty. Normally, it is visible in his eyes, there is a certain sparkle about them when he looks at you.

What key ingredients are needed for a successful relationship?

TRUST is the number one thing. Without trust, everything else falls apart. Communication is important because if you do not communicate with one another when something is wrong, there is no way to fix the problem at hand. Respect, if your partner doesn’t respect you then you won’t respect yourself. Support is also great because you and your partner need each other to lean on.

Friendship Questions

How do I deal with losing friends?

I am a firm believer that if it is worth saving, you should save it. I have lost friends before and it hurts almost, if not worse, than a breakup. However, all hope is not lost, try talking with a friend that you think you lost and sort things out.

 My friendship is draining my energy, what do I do?

 Do what feels right for you. If the friendship isn’t what it used to be, it might be best to let it go.